Valentines Day is Not Always a Happy One



Posted: Sunday, January 17, 2010

by Carolyn Gibson
Carolyn's Corner

You resolved to be a better person in January. February provides another demonstration of commitment for the year. It's Valentines Day, a special occasion to pledge or renew devotion to someone you love. Further, it is traditionally preferred that your expression of love be in the form of something tangible, like a card, flowers, candy, or a weekend getaway.

What kind of gift will you give? An e-card, diamond earrings? The obligatory dozen roses? Will it be expensive, elegant and meaningful, or a simple gift and card? The card must be special. The message in the card must convey the extent of your love and devotion. Especially for men who wait until the last minute. If you want to see some fun, go to any store with a card section, and watch the men all but fight each other for the last remnants of quality Valentines Day cards.

If you are married, or with someone you love, Valentine's Day is a happy one. All you think about from February 1 st is what great gift or romantic getaway you and your love will share on that big day. Maybe it's the day you will propose marriage. Maybe you will express your desire to live together. If you do it on Valentines Day, it will definitely be a memorable occasion.

However, high expectations plague Valentines Day. It is a day meant to exchange tokens of love. At the same time, it can undermine your relationship if you make a wrong move. If you don't spend enough money on your loved one, you'll be relegated to the dog house. If your man or woman is not dazzled by your gift or special place to visit, you will be put to shame. If your girl was expecting you to propose, and you don't, get ready for an extended time in Hell.

Maybe you are one of the millions of single people who have to watch the revelry from the outside of the holiday. Left out of the loop, Valentines Day is torture for a single person. On Valentines Day, couples get super pampered for 24 hours. The most romantic day of the year can be agony to a single person. If you are lonely or depressed, expect that feeling to be magnified.

Ironically, nothing is cast in stone on Valentines Day. You may decide to dump your loved one before the day arrives. Why spend good money on a bad relationship that you plan to end? You can decide to do the same thing to your lover as you did your New Year resolution. Get the gift, and do the dumping afterwards. Call Valentines Day your official Break-Up day.

Don't be a victim of Valentines Day. Don't sit around and do nothing to celebrate your existence on earth. Send yourself some flowers. Start your own traditions. Mail Valentines Day cards to your single friends and relatives. Call your single friends and have a Valentines Day for singles only' party. Tell each friend to bring a single friend, go to your favorite restaurant and bar, and dance the night away. Take your little nieces and nephews out to dinner and a movie.

Single people are not considered on this official day of love. So, plan to celebrate Valentines Day for yourself. Make it your own Happy Day. Get off the computer, get on the telephone and surprise some people you haven't spoken to in years. Plan to be happy despite all the craziness you see around you by couples stressed out trying to make it a perfect day. If nothing else, you'll be so busy you won't have time to be miserable.

Carolyn Gibson of Boston, Massachusetts is a creative writer and poet who writes about the human condition and how we treat one another. She creates poetry from her experiences living in a big, urban city. Selections from her book of 60 poems titled, "Urban Poetry", are on her web site. The book is available at online bookstores.
 
Carolyn also writes her opinions on life's tragedies and triumphs. Read her views on the variety of life in her "Just My Opinion" section. Her booklet, "101 Ways to Mend a Broken Heart" provides guidance on getting rid of the pain of leaving an ex-lover mentally and emotionally.
 
Ms. Gibson is a contributing author at Helium.com. She is also a 2 time winning participant at www.nanowrimo.org, where she completed two first draft novels of more than 50,000 words.  
 
Carolyn's web site is at http://www.Carolynscorner.com 
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» left by Linda DeWitt
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Enjoyable article and a great idea for single people. Thanks for sharing.
» left by Richard Cochrane
 2 years 105 days ago.
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At least I know my mom will be sending me a card on the 14th! Keep up the great writing!
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